Making the Leap: Tips for Finding Love Online
The world of online dating can seem intimidating. With terms like catfishing and ghosting, and a new app seemingly every day, it's hard to keep up. Luckily, more and more adults are giving digital dating a try—and loving it!
Paltalk has always been a place for people to meet and share their passions online. In our new union with SNAP, we are excited to be able to offer relationship-specific tools for all our users. If you've been thinking about trying to meet someone online, check out FirstMet and continue reading for top tips on making new connections in the digital space.
Look Before You Leap
When it comes to looking for love, there is no timetable or deadline. Use your time in chat rooms and dating sites to get to know a variety of people and gain a deeper understanding of what you’re looking for in a potential partner. If you feel a user is moving too quickly or asking prying or invasive questions, this could be a sign that you're not a great fit. Move at a pace that is comfortable for you and allow yourself time to learn organically about the other person.
Meeting people and making new connections is an exciting process, and sometimes bonds form very quickly. It is important to be cautious when meeting new people, as some people join chat rooms for dishonest reasons. Catfishing — when someone creates an online presence using a false or alternate identity — is a common and serious problem for online daters. To avoid being the victim of one of these scams, limit the amount of information you give out to strangers and new friends. Trust your instincts. If something about the person makes you uncomfortable, do not continue the conversation.
It’s natural to want to present the best version of yourself online. While it may be tempting to embellish or exaggerate on your profile or during a discussion, doing so jeopardizes your chances of making a genuine connection. In order to create a lasting bond, make honesty the main priority. Eventually, any lie you tell will come out, which can lead to awkwardness or feelings of betrayal. It's better to avoid dishonesty from the beginning. If someone you meet doesn’t agree with your beliefs or share the same interests, let them know up front and discuss whether you want to keep talking.
Don't Limit Yourself
Many people restrict their options in online dating based on preconceived notions about their perfect match. Instead of limiting yourself to people with a particular job or favorite sports team, try talking to someone who might be a little outside your usual 'type'.
One of the many benefits of online interaction is the large number of diverse people you encounter and with whom you have an opportunity to connect. Take advantage of that opportunity and find common interests and talking points with a variety of people. You’re under no obligation to stay connected to someone you don’t like, but you never know whom you might meet!
Invest Your Time Wisely
When you talk to multiple people online, it can be hard to know how many minutes, hours, days or even weeks to devote to getting to know them before making a decision. Make sure you’re open and give people a chance, but know when the conversation is worth pursuing. Asking specific questions and discussing subjects that are important to you are good ways of gauging whether or not you are compatible with someone. If you’re in a conversation and the other person seems uninterested or doesn’t answer your questions, that might be a sign they aren’t engaged in the conversation (or relationship).
While using dating sites and chat rooms, it's possible to encounter an exhausting number of people. However, if you pace yourself and let opportunities unfold naturally, you will enjoy the experience more than burning yourself out trying to find someone quickly. Understand that not every encounter will lead to a lifelong connection— expecting such will leave you disappointed. Instead, try changing your perspective and seeing each person you meet, even if they aren't a successful match, as a chance to practice and learn.
This is maybe the most important rule of all for online dating. We know it can be stressful or intimidating, but it should also be fun. You have the opportunity to meet new people, talk about things that interest you, and share who you are — all from the comfort of your own computer (or mobile device). Get excited, embrace the experience, and jump in! We think you'll enjoy yourself.